I chose to write about this because I see it so often in my practice as a psychotherapist—especially with younger clients. The theme is complex, of course. Each person carries their own story, wounds, and reasons. But the good news is: these can be understood, worked through, and healed.

In the age of social media, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that everyone else is happier, more successful, and more fulfilled. People usually share their best moments—not their struggles—so what we see is a polished highlight reel, not real life. This constant exposure fuels what psychologists call social comparison—a well-known phenomenon that can quietly erode our self-worth and well-being .

But here’s something important: this isn’t just your problem. It’s ours.

We’re a social species—wired to care deeply about how we measure up to others. It’s evolutionary. So if you feel “less than,” it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It means you’re human.

The good news? There are ways to break this cycle and feel more grounded, confident, and connected.

Here are six powerful shifts—simple, human, and backed by evidence:

Limit your time on social media—and connect more in real life. Likes aren’t love. Presence is.

Catch the illusion. Whenever you notice you’re comparing, remind yourself: “No one has a perfect life. You don’t know what they’re struggling with.”

Know yourself—gently and honestly. Be realistic about your strengths and limits. Don’t believe the Instagram reels that scream “you can have it all” or “get rid of insecurities in 5 minutes.” Those messages often leave us feeling even more inadequate. Get away from them.

Make real progress. Even a little growth in areas that matter to you brings lasting satisfaction. Don’t give up on changing the things you don’t like about yourself—even small steps count. And celebrate your progress, your small wins, your glimpses of beauty.

Choose admiration over comparison. If someone feels truly inspiring, admire them. Don’t turn it against yourself. Let that admiration lift you. Forget about what you don’t have for a moment—and allow yourself to feel joy for what someone else has.

Practice gratitude. Not to fake happiness, but to come back to what’s already good and meaningful in your life.

Small steps. Deep shifts.

Your worth was never meant to be measured against someone else’s highlight reel .